Have you volunteered to help plan a wedding shower for a friend or family member? Have you been asked to help plan one? If you’re wondering whether or not you should tackle the planning process on your own, read on.
Who should plan a wedding shower, anyway? Many hosts volunteer freely to plan a wedding shower for their closest girlfriend or for a good friend of the family. Sometimes hosts are asked to help co-plan a shower by the maid of honor or another bridesmaid, or you might be the maid of honor and have assumed it’s your duty to throw the bride-to-be a wedding shower. Whatever your situation, you might be wondering who should plan the wedding shower for the bride and whether or not you should offer to be the host.
Here are some common host options:
Maid of honor—Traditionally, the maid of honor always throws the wedding shower. This often works out well because the maid of honor is likely the bride’s best friend or a very close friend of the family, so she she knows the bride very well and is familiar with her likes and dislikes.
Mother or grandmother—Although the maid of honor is the traditional host for the bride’s wedding shower, it’s become very popular in recent years for the mother or grandmother of the bride to throw the shower. This was once a wedding shower etiquette no-no, but nowadays it’s very common and is perfectly acceptable.
Local friend—A local friend of the bride can also plan the wedding shower, which is a good option because the local host can plan an event that allows all of the bride’s local, direct friends and family members the chance to see and celebrate with the bride. Not every bride has her shower locally, so this is always a nice luxury. Just be sure to confirm when (or if) the maid of honor is throwing a shower and whether or not the bride minds attending two wedding showers.
Groom’s mother—Today, many wedding showers are thrown by the groom’s mother, or the bride has two wedding showers: one planned by the maid of honor or mother, and the other thrown by the groom’s family. This requires some coordination between wedding shower hosts, but it is a nice wedding shower host option.