Okay, so, this comment wasn’t really spoken in reference to wedding planning, but it’s definitely something we can all apply! Let’s break it down.
“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and remembered’ never throw out anyone. Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands; one for helping yourself, and the other for helping others.” Audrey Hepburn
For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. Sometimes it’s hard to speak words of kindness, especially if someone has done something to upset you. And trust us, during the wedding planning process, someone or something will upset you. But don’t let it get to you (we know, harder than it sounds)!! Deal with issues as they come up. And on your wedding day, when someone complements your centerpieces, instead of venting for a brief five minutes about how the florist (after months of meetings) used the wrong shade of pink for the roses, simply say thank you for the compliment! If you must, you can even throw in “They are just a bit different than what we were expecting, but I sure do think they are beautiful!”.
For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. This can be particularly difficult when you’re planning your wedding, especially if you’ve heard a lot about bad vendors. It’s one thing to play it safe when interviewing and hiring your vendors, but it’s not quite fair to assume that they are all out for just getting your money! I’d say, for the majority of vendors, that’s definitely not true. In addition, try to give people the benefit of the doubt is something little does go wrong. Looking for the good in your vendors (not to mention your family, wedding party, and guests) will help making anything that doesn’t do exactly according to plan seem less “catastrophic”.
For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. While some couples literally do share their delicious wedding left-overs with “the hungry”, you can do something a little more figurative. For example, if you’re wanting to give philanthropic favors, donate to your local food shelter. Or, take a wedding planning brake with your fiance (or even your wedding party) and help out with a food drive. Helping others simply feels fabulous!
For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. Well, if you don’t have a child handy, grab a flower girl or ring bearer. And while no, you don’t actually have to have them run their fingers through your hair, many couples do love having these youngsters around. They can add a ton of cuteness to the day, not to mention, a bit of comic relief. Unless they are little hellions, we tend to notice that they generally lighten the mood!
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. So true. And very good to keep in mind during your planning. You have your family, friends, vendors, wedding party, and of course, your wedding planner. And if you’re just having one of those days where it feels like no one understands or care, you always have Fido who will always, always listen to you.
People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and remembered, never throw out anyone. I’d just call this one a good life lesson. We know that your wedding is just that – yours. But keep in mind people have lives that don’t really revolve around your wedding. So if someone you adore can’t make it on the big day, just realize that they may have something else going on in their lives that is more important.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you will find one at the end of each of your arms. Yes indeed. Don’t be afraid to try and do things yourself, for your wedding or any other area of your life! Doing something “all by yourself” can be really rewarding, whether it’s negotiating a contract with a vendor, designing your gown, or assembling all 300 wedding favors!
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands; one for helping yourself, and the other for helping others. Never underestimate the power of people. Never be afraid to help yourself and always be looking for ways to help others. With weddings, sometimes you just have to get the job done yourself! But other times, you’ll need to help someone else out a little. Perhaps your mom needs help with the tasks you gifted her with, or maybe your MOH is going through a rough patch in her life. If you have your own life under control, never be afraid to offer someone else a little assistance!