To keep in mind as you work with a wedding planner…

1. She* can’t read your mind. Just like your fiance couldn’t give you one good reason why you’re mad at him, your wedding planner won’t know exaclty what you want unless you tell her. She may be able to figure some things out, but, unless you’re giving up all control to her on this important day, make sure she knows about all of your expectations and all the little details she needs to take care of. (Bottom line: Good communication is key. Keep the paths of communication open and functioning. Don’t be afraid to tell her what you don’t like or what needs to be changed. Don’t be afraid to call or send her an email. She is there to answer your questions. Also, don’t hesitate to ask her for updates. It’s her job!)

2. She asks to meet with you and for certain information for specific reasons. Your wedding planner doens’t want to waste your time or hers. When she asks to schedule a meeting, it’s for a reason. Perhaps she wants to make positively certain that she has the day’s schedule of events down or wants to tripple check the list of songs, or a plethera of other minute details that have very likely left your mind completely. So meet with her that one last time, and don’t be late! (Some planners will charge you for being late to appointments, so ask in advance, just incase time slips away from you easily.)

3. She is your advocate, but can’t get you absolutly anything you want. While yes, she may be able to pull all of her strings for you, she still can’t get Michael Buble to sing at your wedding for a mere five grand. Also, she is working for you and wants to make you a very happy customer, so if she is any good, she’ll go above and beyond to get you what you ask for, but at the same time, when she says something just won’t work, listen to her. Chances are, she’s already tried it.

4. She can’t keep some things from happening. Like rain. Or an ice storm. However, you’ve hired her to make sure if these things do happen, you’ll have a back up plan. So, while it’s easy to be upset that it’s raining on your wedding day (which some believe is good luck!), don’t take it out on your planner. Be happy that she arranged for a back up tent to be set up or that she has made special arrangements for an attendant to be ready and waiting with an umbrella and other rain-repellant objects to transport you from the limo to the reception building.

5. Assistance are more than just good company. Weddings are a big ordeal. If you’ve hired a wedding planner, you’ve probably already felt the weight upon your shoulders that a wedding can bring. Now imagine you are the only one that needs to set up for the reception and ceremony and check in with all the vendors and make sure day progresses with as little hiccups as possible. Yeah! Stressful! That’s where assistants come in. They do more work than you see and are definitely a necessary helper.

6. She puts in more work than you’d think. You may only meet five or six times before your wedding day (if you’ve hired her for weekend-only coordination), but that doesn’t mean that she’s only putting five or six hours into your day! Before you met for the first time she made sure she was prepared to meet with you and answer your questions. Between meetings she contacted vendors, built schedules, organized people and various other little details. And even after the event, there is follow up work involved. So while you may not have a lot of face time, she is definitely hard at work.

All in all, if you have a wedding planner that you just click with, things will go a lot more smoothly. But even then, as the wedding date approaches and nerves raise, remember the things above to keep your relationship with her great!

*Or he

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