So you have found “the one†and you’ve picked “the day,†but have you chosen your ‘maids yet? This can be tricky, as some ladies have been thinking about this day since kindergarten.
While some decisions are easy, others are quite a bit more difficult. For instance, what shade of white (or any other color for that matter) will my dress be? What shape will the cake be? What time will we exchange our vows? But perhaps the most difficult decision you’ll make for your big day (other than, of course, deciding to marry the person of your dreams!) is who will be by your side when you say your “I Do’sâ€! That’s right, choosing your bridesmaids.
You may have a mile long list of girls that “simply must†be bridesmaids. You might have one best friend! There is no rule that says to must have a certain amount or any at all! But, if you’re like the “average†bride out there, you’ll want 3, 4, or 5 of your best gal pals to share in the experience right along with you. But how to choose?
Here are some Dos and Don’ts to get you thinking:
DON’T get out the old grade school year-book and find your best friend from fifteen years ago. Yes, I’m talking about the one that you pinky swore one day you would be in each other’s weddings. That was then, this is now.
DO think of the women you are very close to in your life, at this point in time. There is a reason you’re close to these women and there is a good chance they would make the prefect candidates to support you on your big day.
DON’T promise ten of your friends they can be bridesmaids before you are absolutely sure you want them to be! I think this goes without saying, but sometimes we get caught up in the moment….
DO wait to ask your potential bridesmaids when you are absolutely sure they are the women most near and dear to your heart.
DON’T ask a friend to be in your wedding just because you feel obligated. If you were in her wedding a year ago or you’re close to her family, it doesn’t matter! You may be one of her best friends, but you may also have three sisters and only room for three ‘maids.
DO honor these special women by asking them to participate in other ways. Maybe they would do wonderfully reading a bible verse or playing music during the ceremony.
DON’T be afraid to tell people the truth! If one of your good friends ask if she can be a bridesmaid, but you already have the women you want, don’t tell her yes just to avoid the risk of hurting her feelings or your friendship.
DO be honest and straight forward! If a friend does ask this question (which she shouldn’t!), tell her something along the lines of “I am so honored that you asked! But actually, I have already asked my sister, Hannah, and Emily and I only have room for three!â€
Just remember as you pick, these are the women you want to take forward with you into the future and into this new stage of your life!
Check back soon for posts on creative ways to ask your ladies to be your bridesmaids and other bridesmaid topics!
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